Online dating apps have been around for a long time now and meeting people through the internet has become the norm. If you don’t have an account with any of the big dating apps then you’re in the minority But just like every other technique for meeting women, there is a right way and a wrong way. When these apps first came onto the scene back in the 90s no one really knew what they were doing, so it was more acceptable to be a little lame in your approach.
Back in the day, guys would take a lot of time composing cringe intro monologues to impress the ladies. They put in a lot of effort to look good, mostly trying too hard. Fast forward a decade or two and it seems we all got lazy and started throwing up any old selfie with a few grunted words in the expectation that we’re going to get laid. The mistaken assumption is that online dating is nothing more than a numbers game.
Let’s dive in and take a look at where things can go wrong and how we can make them right again.
Top Ten Mistakes Guys Make On Dating Apps
1. Lame, lazy, and goofy profile photos
First impressions count. If you have a bad profile photo, nothing else matters. Your profile is the hook, so lose the comfortable clothes, up your selfie game, and clean up any clutter in the background.
2. Waiting too long to respond
You don't want to come off as over-eager or desperate, but that doesn't mean you should wait days, weeks, or even hours to respond. Remember that she's using the same dating app as you. While you play hard to get she's swiping onto the next hot profile.
3. Hey! Sup? Howdy:-)
You're trying to play it cool, but every variation of the above scream lazy, unoriginal, and boring. Forget about it. If she's that hot you can spend the five and half seconds needed to think of something original to stand out from the crowd.
4. Copying and pasting generic messages
We know you would never do this, but believe it or not there are guys out there lifting chunks of text from the internet or just sending generic responses to all the women who show an interest. Don't treat your messages like an email sales funnel! She will notice and unsubscribe from your 'mailing list' fast.
5. Using bad grammar and bad spelling
For the love of God, use a spell check and proper grammar. Your profile isn't a TikTok video where bad spelling can game the algorithm. Nothing is a bigger turn-off for a hot girl than ignorance, laziness, and stupidity. This is an easy win, so make sure you cut it out right now.
6. Obsessing over her body
Every girl likes to be complimented, but don’t expect to win hearts if all you can think of to talk about are her spectacular boobs and ass. She’s hot and she knows it. She has all kinds of fools jabbering these ‘compliments’ at her in the street and finds it boring and unoriginal.
7. Sending text walls instead of messages
Don’t blabber on and on in your messages. If she wanted to hear someone blabber on about themselves she could have gone out with her girlfriends. Talk just enough to keep it interesting and make her want to learn more.
8. Being too familiar
You aren’t married yet. You aren’t ‘besties’. You haven’t even had your first date yet. Familiarity comes after all of those things, so stay polite and don’t make the mistake of…
No mention of bodily functions. Nothing medical. No trauma or baggage. Not even too much about your love of cryptocurrency, sports statistics, or whatever it is that keeps you up at night. Keep it to yourself until you know more about her.
10. Not showing an interest
We know you might not really care too much about her love of photography and vegan cuisine, or whatever it is, but be polite, show an interest or she’ll turn off straight away.
Don't insult her. It sounds obvious, we know, but there's this idea out there that women respond faster to insults than to compliments. The theory is that this makes it a great way to get her attention. While there is some merit to this once you've gotten to know each other a little, in the beginning, it's way too risky. Don't do it. There has never been a better time to jump into online dating. The range of apps is mind-blowing and gets bigger every day. Whether you are looking for a long-term relationship or a casual hook-up, there's an app for you.The software is becoming more sophisticated every year and in some cases every few months.
What Are You Waiting For?
If you had any reservations about jumping into the online dating world, put them aside. Everyone is doing it and before you know it you will be every bit as comfortable as the rest of the world using these exciting new technologies. Everyone makes mistakes at first and it’s totally normal. You will mess up and you might make a few embarrassing blunders, but these initial clumsy steps will ultimately help you to succeed in the online dating world. Follow the simple steps above and you will be meeting hot girls like a pro player in no time.